Sometimes I allow myself to escape from the reality of foster care. I try to forget that he belongs to someone else. I try to forget about my need to plan for the future. I try to forget about the court date last week that we are still waiting to hear the ruling for. I…
Read moreQuitting Foster Care
If I admitted every single time I wanted to throw in the towel on being a foster parent, It would be insanely embarrassing. Simply put I know some people have the tolerance and patience of a saint and I am nothing like them. When a case is stagnant and it feels like no one cares that…
Read moreA note from November 2019
**This was written 11/14/2019. Ryan and I were in the midst of one of the hardest years of our lives from start to finish. I had not yet earned the title of “mom.” We had not yet felt the joy of adoption…and this time last year I didn’t think it was possible. November is national…
Read moreGotcha Day 10/19/18
Two years ago tomorrow (10/19/18), I was in our bedroom folding a mountain of laundry. The twins were at school and Ryan was working. It was a Friday. I was trying to finish up some tasks because that afternoon, we were having an 8 year old respite friend come for the weekend. Our family was…
Read moreUs vs. Them
Us. vs Them. The ultimate dilemma in foster care and adoption. Advocating for both my son and my foster child’s best interest can be so tricky. Do you ever want to say, “Forget this advocacy nonsense, I’m going to FIGHT for what is right!”? Oh, it would be so easy to push ahead and not…
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